Divorce is one of life’s most difficult transitions – the ramifications are not just emotional, but financial and legal as well. Around 42% of UK marriages end in divorce, with over 80,000 cases recorded in 2022. Although the introduction of no-fault divorce in 2022 has made the process less adversarial, the journey can still feel overwhelming. But you don’t have to go through it alone. Here’s a practical guide to accessing the legal, emotional, and financial tools that you need at this difficult time so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.
Legal support: Understand your rights
It can be painful and tedious, but you must sort out the legalities of finances, child arrangements, and spousal maintenance in order to ensure a fair outcome. Clear guidance can help. For example, The Family Justice Council’s Sorting Out Finances on Divorce Guide is a free resource that highlights prioritising children’s needs when dividing assets. It’s also essential to engage experienced divorce solicitors such as Hodge Jones & Allen to ensure you fully understand your rights and can negotiate settlements with confidence.
Navigating the psychological impact
The end of a marriage often brings grief, anxiety, and even loss of identity at not being part of a couple. Talking therapies, such as counselling or CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), can provide valuable tools to help you manage your emotions and negative thoughts. Charities like Relate and independent counsellors offer safe spaces to process complicated feelings (the Counselling Directory can help you find a qualified therapist near you). Or you might prefer support groups to connect with people facing similar challenges. Remember that investing in your emotional health isn’t just about coping during the divorce process – it’s a key step towards personal growth.
Secure your post-divorce financial future
Money is often one of the biggest worries after divorce – particularly for women, whose household incomes can drop by half in the first year after separation. Consult a financial adviser to help you navigate pensions, the dividing of other assets, and the tax implications involved. Plan early so that you have a stronger foundation for rebuilding your life and avoid costly surprises.
How routines and self-care can help with divorce stress
Self-care is just as essential as paperwork when you’re navigating a process as life changing as divorce. A support system is crucial, so make sure to stay connected with friends, family, or peer groups of people going through the same thing. It’s also important to stick to your usual routines (bedtime, mealtimes) to maintain a sense of normality amidst the upheaval. And even simple self-care activities like walking, reading, or creative hobbies can do wonders to lift mood and wellbeing. Finally, don’t hesitate to consult a mental health professional if low moods persist.
Move forward with support and clarity
Divorce is never easy, but with the right legal, emotional, and financial support, you’ll be better placed to face the challenges with greater confidence. Taking care of practical matters and your wellbeing will pave the way for a secure, balanced, and hopeful future.
